Principles of Attraction and the Phenomenon of Love
A THOUSAND YEAR OLD QUESTION
A mortal life, as opposed to its counterpart, an immortal one, by nature condemned to perish, preserves itself solely by the means of reproduction.
If the purpose of such a life was to die, there would not be a life to place a purpose to.
If it was to live, then it would be not to die, thus to try to overcome the definite end.
Yet to overcome such a milestone, the purpose would be to reproduce.
This tells us the following:
1: The day a man becomes immortal, meaning of life for mankind would change to such measure, one could say it is lost.
2: A mortal life tends to reproduce in the manner, and in order, to improve and adapt, or at least preserve itself. You would not find a species that tends to do otherwise.
PRINCIPLES OF ATTRACTION
Love is a term that is meant to put a name to an affection of one to another. This affection, however, as well as the term itself, has been mystified since the earliest of days, as man could not begin to comprehend the complexicity of it. Even today, some would tell you that love is something more, something better, something not quite from this world. That of course is but a wish of an ignorant man.
The reason why such an affection even exist is quite simple, to select a suitable partner to reproduce with. This capability is deep in our genome, inherited since the dawn of life, and is not dependent on the self awareness of a human, thus making it an elementary, subconscious and instinctive principle.
To select a suitable partner means to select someone, whose genome would not affect ours negatively, in the first place. A partner whose genetic code would help to preserve ours in shared offspring is naturally less suitable than a partner, whose genome would improve that of the shared offspring.
To judge the suitability of a potential partner means to take measure of potential heritage the partner has to offer. We can differentiate between three main criteria judged on the potential partner, prior to any affection.
I. PHYSIOLOGICAL CRITERION
The first and most important of the three. As sensory-evaluated, it is completely instinctive and shares a lot with the principles of partner selection among animals.
Sight, as a superior sense to humans, is responsible for initial evaluation. Amidst the first things that will brain recognize are for example shape of the head, posture, overall symmetricity, any sort of deformities and visible signs of inheritable traits, such as harelip or baldness. Another major factors, that brain will evaluate are complexion and teeth, as the front pages of health. Amongst the minor are then aesthetical factors, such as color and type of hair, eye color or beauty marks.
Hearing will evaluate the sound of voice, smell the odour, as part of the state of health.
These factors we tend to manipulate by the means of cosmetic operations, whitening of teeth, change of hair colour, use of cosmetics and perfume, to add to our attractivity.
II. PSYCHOPATHOLOGICAL CRITERION
Second on the ladder of criteria, the psychopathological criterion is evaluated hybridly as sensory, emotionaly and intellectually. Under this criterion falls assessment of the character, overall intelligence and mental state, as well as signs of any mental disorders or abnormalities.
Initially, we will evaluate the "presence in reality" as coherence of interactions, proportionality of reactions and adequacy of emotional charge. Any abnormality in the "presence in reality" would indicate a possible problem.
The accuracy of judgement of this criterion is highly dependent on the mental capabitilies of the "judge". Incorrect assessment of this criterion often leads to dysfunctional relationships.
As more complex and also more subtle a criterion, it is not as easily manipulated as the first. Yet we tend to incline to certain behavioral patterns that are perceived as acceptable, when it comes to social interactions and interacting with potential partners.
III. SOCIO-DEMOGRAPHIC CRITERION
Initially part of the first criterion, back when the weight and cleanness of an individual reflected certain social status, today an almost completely artificial criterion. It evaluates for example race, nationality and religion, as well as wealth and social status.
The socio-demographic criterion, besides the color of skin or nationality attributes, is mainly reflected by clothing, trinkets or personal items and belongings.
This criterion is the easiest to manipulate, due to its artificiality.
THE PHENOMENON OF LOVE
The evaluating conditions are strictly individual, as one would be attracted only to a partner who fits the needs of genome preservation and improvement, as well as image of any personal role models, thus making it impossible for "universal attractiveness" to exist.
If two of the three criteria are met in an individual, we can speak of an attraction, directly proportional with how well the criteria are met.
If all three of the criteria are met, we tend to speak of love.
Throughout history, the order of importance of the three criteria varied. In the prehistoric era, the first criterion was important to a measure it overweighted the other two combined. In the middle ages, the third criterion was the most important, thus for example leading to arranged marriages. Today we live in the world where with the advancements in science and globalism, the second criterion is slowly taking the place of the first.
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